Acrimony

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She has such a small frame. She must be about 4.3 and wears shoes number 4. She wears a welcoming smile and carries the aura of a happy female. She has two children – a teenage son and a toddler daughter. She has been married for about 15 years.

She tells me of the day her husband moved out of their house. She gets a call from the watchman about her family moving out in her absence. Moving out? She calls her husband who rudely informs her that he is moving. She goes quiet. Something in his tone is not right.

He leaves only three things. The baby’s cot, her clothes and his wife’s clothes. He carries everything else including the milk she had expressed and preserved in the fridge. He carries even the leftover bread from breakfast. He carries some potatoes that the lady had brought from her mother that weekend that were drying outside. His intention was to leave absolutely nothing.

She comes home to find a distraught house help and a hungry baby. Where do you start she wonders?

This was three years ago. The lady gives me her experience in such a balanced manner it is unbelievable that she is the one who went through the ordeal.

My question at this point is as everybody’s. What had she done or what happened for someone to leave even with the baby’s milk? Nothing she says. The man had reached the peak of his career he was making good money, had friends they shared this life with. He no longer was the person I knew. I thought it was a phase then he moved and left us.

She told me that her son had his friends video games at home when the move happened. His father carried them. It was such a nightmare for the teenager as he explained to his friends what happened and that his mother would buy them new ones. The matter was made worse that his father had carried all his shoes and clothes where most young people find identity.

I watched Acrimony by Tyler Perry and my friend’s story kept coming to mind. Other than the movie being too long, it depicted a relationship that had dents from the very beginning and a human being thinking they could manipulate another into loving them.

It made me think long and hard about relationships. It occurred to me what happens in the end is normally a good lesson in what kind of a relationship you were in and what you were holding on to.

How acrimonious was it when the time to go reached? How badly did you treat the other person? How much dignity and esteem did you strip from them? What rock bottom had you brought them to? What amount of debt did you leave them in?

The complexity of life is, sometimes the end never reaches. It could be for a good reason. Or for a bad cause. Sometimes the end is tragic.

Learn the lesson early.

Sojourner.

How Dreams affect you

Elias Howe

Inventor of the Sewing Machine
Even the sewing machine owes its invention to a dream.

Elias Howe worked as a sewing operator and wanted to find a way to make his work easier. One night he dreamt that a savage king ordered him to invent a sewing machine.

After trying unsuccessfully, the tribe threatened to kill him with spears.
Just before they attempted to spear him, he noticed that each spear had a
hole in it just above the point. This was the clue he needed to make the
sewing machine a reality.

Elias’s dream helped him solve a big problem he had and gave birth to the
sewing machine.

Gratitude


Gratitude means thankfulness, counting your blessings, noticing simple pleasures, and acknowledging everything that you receive. It means learning to live your life as if everything were a miracle, and being aware on a continuous basis of how much you’ve been given.

Here a free gift to show my gratitude

Gratitude shifts your focus from what your life lacks to the abundance that is already present. In addition, behavioral and psychological research has shown the surprising life improvements that can stem from the practice of gratitude. Giving thanks makes people happier and more resilient, it strengthens relationships, it improves health, and it reduces stress.

By

Loki Ong

Tithe – who is to receive & how often!

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What can be made from ‘the grass’ Bamboo

African Football

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FOUND THIS INTERESTING.

Football Rules of our childhood – Play station kids will never understand this

1-The fat is always the keeper
2-The game ends only if all players are tired (EXCEPT RULE 5)
3-No matter the score, the team that scores the last goal wins the game
4-There is no referee
5-If the owner of the ball gets angry the game is over
6-The 2 best players can’t play on the same team, so everyone chooses their players
7-If you are chosen the last one is a humiliation
8-If there is penalty the keeper is replaced by the best player of his team and says “not for good” to mean that after the penalty, the keeper returns to his post
9-When the ball comes out of the playground to a remote destination, it’s the hitter who’s going to get the ball
10-The best player on the ground is always on the same team as the owner of the ball
11-To start a game we always said “Epp the game begins”
12-To distinguish teams, a team should play shirtless
13- You kick the ball in the air to start a match
14- Its all massive attack, massive defence
If you were once a victim,  what else do you think I missed to include in the rules?

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Controlling Bleeding

In an Emergency or survival situation, you must control serious bleeding immediately because replacement fluids normally are not available and the victim can die within a matter of minutes. External bleeding falls into the following classifications (according to its source):

Arterial. Blood vessels called arteries carry blood away from the heart and through the body. A cut artery issues bright red blood from the wound in distinct spurts or pulses that correspond to the rhythm of the heartbeat. Because the blood in the arteries is under high pressure, an individual can lose a large volume of blood in a short period when damage to an artery of significant size occurs. Therefore, arterial bleeding is the most serious type of bleeding. If not controlled promptly, it can be fatal.
Venous. Venous blood is blood that is returning to the heart through blood vessels called veins. A steady flow of dark red, maroon, or bluish blood characterizes bleeding from a vein. You can usually control venous bleeding more easily than arterial bleeding.
Capillary. The capillaries are the extremely small vessels that connect the arteries with the veins. Capillary bleeding most commonly occurs in minor cuts and scrapes. This type of bleeding is not difficult to control.
You can control external bleeding by direct pressure, indirect (pressure points) pressure, elevation, digital ligation, or tourniquet.

Direct Pressure

The most effective way to control external bleeding is by applying pressure directly over the wound.

This pressure must not only be firm enough to stop the bleeding, but it must also be maintained long enough to “seal off” the damaged surface.

If bleeding continues after having applied direct pressure for 30 minutes, apply a pressure dressing.

This dressing consists of a thick dressing of gauze or other suitable material applied directly over the wound and held in place with a tightly wrapped bandage
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(Figure 4-2). It should be tighter than an ordinary compression bandage but not so tight that it impairs circulation to the rest of the limb. Once you apply the dressing, do not remove it, even when the dressing becomes blood soaked.

Leave the pressure dressing in place for 1 or 2 days, after which you can remove and replace it with a smaller dressing.

In the long-term survival environment, make fresh, daily dressing changes and inspect for signs of infection.

Elevation

Raising an injured extremity as high as possible above the heart’s level slows blood loss by aiding the return of blood to the heart and lowering the blood pressure at the wound. However, elevation alone will not control bleeding entirely; you must also apply direct pressure over the wound. When treating a snakebite, however, keep the extremity lower than the heart.

Pressure Points

A pressure point is a location where the main artery to the wound lies near the surface of the skin or where the artery passes directly over a bony prominence image

(Figure 4-3). You can use digital pressure on a pressure point to slow arterial bleeding until the application of a pressure dressing. Pressure point control is not as effective for controlling bleeding as direct pressure exerted on the wound. It is rare when a single major compressible artery supplies a damaged vessel.

If you cannot remember the exact location of the pressure points, follow this rule: Apply pressure at the end of the joint just above the injured area. On hands, feet, and head, this will be the wrist, ankle, and neck, respectively.

WARNING

Use caution when applying pressure to the neck. Too much pressure for too long may cause unconsciousness or death. Never place a tourniquet around the neck.

Maintain pressure points by placing a round stick in the joint, bending the joint over the stick, and then keeping it tightly bent by lashing. By using this method to maintain pressure, it frees your hands to work in other areas.

Digital Ligation

You can stop major bleeding immediately or slow it down by applying pressure with a finger or two on the bleeding end of the vein or artery. Maintain the pressure until the bleeding stops or slows down enough to apply a pressure bandage, elevation, and so forth.

Tourniquet

Use a tourniquet only when direct pressure over the bleeding point and all other methods did not control the bleeding. If you leave a tourniquet in place too long, the damage to the tissues can progress to gangrene, with a loss of the limb later. An improperly applied tourniquet can also cause permanent damage to nerves and other tissues at the site of the constriction.

If you must use a tourniquet, place it around the extremity, between the wound and the heart, 5 to 10 centimeters above the wound site
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(Figure 4-4). Never place it directly over the wound or a fracture. Use a stick as a handle to tighten the tourniquet and tighten it only enough to stop blood flow. When you have tightened the tourniquet, bind the free end of the stick to the limb to prevent unwinding.

After you secure the tourniquet, clean and bandage the wound. A lone survivor does not remove or release an applied tourniquet. In a buddy system, however, the buddy can release the tourniquet pressure every 10 to 15 minutes for 1 or 2 minutes to let blood flow to the rest of the extremity to prevent limb loss.

Prevent and Treat Shock

Anticipate shock in all injured personnel. Treat all injured persons as follows, regardless of what symptoms appear
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(Figure 4-5):

If the victim is conscious, place him on a level surface with the lower extremities elevated 15 to 20 centimeters.
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If the victim is unconscious, place him on his side or abdomen with his head turned to one side to prevent choking on vomit, blood, or other fluids.
If you are unsure of the best position, place the victim perfectly flat. Once the victim is in a shock position, do not move him.
Maintain body heat by insulating the victim from the surroundings and, in some instances, applying external heat.
If wet, remove all the victim’s wet clothing as soon as possible and replace with dry clothing.
Improvise a shelter to insulate the victim from the weather.
Use warm liquids or foods, a prewarmed sleeping bag, another person, warmed water in canteens, hot rocks wrapped in clothing, or fires on either side of the victim to provide external warmth.
If the victim is conscious, slowly administer small doses of a warm salt or sugar solution, if available.
If the victim is unconscious or has abdominal wounds, do not give fluids by mouth.
Have the victim rest for at least 24 hours.
If you are a lone survivor, lie in a depression in the ground, behind a tree, or any other place out of the weather, with your head lower than your feet.
If you are with a buddy, reassess your patient constantly.

*(extract: army survival guide)

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